DO YOU HATE BEING ALONE?

DO YOU HATE BEING ALONE?

I walked into a room and found my 2 year old grandson playing with some toys all by himself! His eyes lit up when he saw me. He chatted away happily in his own way, smiling, pointing this and that to me.  And after a while when I left the room, he went back playing with his toys.

I was thinking that we have to learn a lot of things to learn from children!

Over a lifetime, one meets extroverts who spend too much time in the company of others, dominate the show and tell all of us how great they are. Conversely, there are introverts who always under rate themselves, speak less and shy away from public. Both in the extremes are not desirable.

When I see boredom in teenagers, their standard repartee is their friends are away! Modern life appears as shown in TV advertisements to be glamorous and enjoyable, only while being with friends drinking, eating, dancing, lying in the sun or swimming in the water!

One needs to know that being alone and spending time of your own is still manly (or womanly!) Maintaining silence and your own company at times is great. Hermits do it, scholars do it, scientists do it, leaders so it!

I am not saying one should be alone all the time! That would be wrong!

All I am saying is that one should not be unhappy to be alone some of the time; in fact one should love being alone some of the time !

Signs you are not spending time on yourself alone, but becoming dependent on others for happiness:

• ·         You become bored when lonely.
• ·         You long to meet any friend to chat or spend time.
• ·         You find yourself looking at the mobile too many times checking face book, whatsApp, instagram, etc when alone.
• ·         You find life miserable while without mobile and TV (and no one else is around!)
• ·         You keep looking at the time repeatedly and wondering why it is taking so much time till the next meal!

One should learn to spend time by oneself for several reasons.

• ·         You can be silent and don’t have to please anyone.
• ·         You can reassess some of your past actions, improve your own performance.
• ·         You can continue your hobby - photography, gardening, painting, etc or develop a new one
• ·         You can read. Reading widens knowledge and makes a ready man.
• ·         You can step out of your comfort zone and take a travel somewhere.
• ·         You can plan your events for the day especially early in the morning.
• ·         Meditation helps focus and clarity of mind
• ·         Exercise, either walking/ jogging or hitting the gym/ pool is good. Enhances endorphins and you feel good. 
•       It is character building time depending on your reflection!
• ·         If you still feel too sad, lonely and depressed, it is time to consider help.
  
  

It is true we came into the world alone and we are going to leave alone. So being alone for a while does  not matter, in fact it is good for you!