DO YOU SAY ‘YES’, WHEN YOU MEAN ‘NO’?

  

My wife keeps telling me, “Why can’t you say ‘no’ to people instead of palming them off to me?!”

A lot of truth in that! She was brought up in the Air Force style, not taking any nonsense from anyone!

I find it difficult to say ‘no’ to many requests! The closer the person is to me, the more difficult it is! 

My 2 year old grandson knows this best and makes it count! (though he is only learning to count!!)

When was the last time you said “Yes”, when you were screaming inside to say “NO”?

I’m sure it is true of most of you as well!

In that case, THE TRUTH IS:

• ·         You pretend to agree with everyone!
• ·         You want to please everyone!
• ·         You want to be everywhere all the time!
• ·         You want to be liked by everyone!All the time!(consider self worth– love yourself most of all)
• ·         You want to act just like all the people around you in whatever they do! (dangerous)
• ·         You go to any extent to avoid a controversy, even when it puts you to immense inconvenience!
• ·         You are uncomfortable stating an opinion contrary to the other person!
• ·         You do favors for others, but do not enjoy them at all!

In that case, WHAT YOU DO TO YOURSELF:

• ·         You put yourself below others!
• ·         You love yourself &your loved ones less!(wasting your time,when you should be with family)
• ·         You become unpopular and unreliable! (people know you are a sucker to fall for any plan)
• ·         You develop less confidence in yourself! (waving like the straw in the wind)
• ·         You hate the things you do, when you are aware you should be doing better things!
• ·         You fail to please the people who love you!This is of importance when you're the family head!

WHAT IS THE ‘CURE’?

Say “NO”! Stand up for yourself, your time, your principles, your loved ones!

But be gentle, courteous and reasonable in saying “NO”!

Be aware that people who want to like you, will like you any way!

Be aware that people who don’t want to like you, won’t anyway! Their loss, totally – ha ha!

Once people accept the new you, they will respect you!

People become aware of your stand in issues and need you less!

You have more time in your life to do the enjoyable things which matter!!

And stop putting 'thumbs up' on whatsApp groups when you don't actually agree, just to belong to the majority!

AT THE END OF 2018, DO YOU REMEMBER (Sowripalayam sayings)

AT THE END OF 2018, DO YOU REMEMBER (Sowripalayam Sayings!)

Do you remember the days you prayed for the things you have now?

Do you remember the hungry children displaced by wars, when your child cries?

Do you remember the homeless, when you travel out of the comfort of home?

Do you remember the hungry street dogs trashing the bins, when you feed your own dogs?

While we know we cannot solve all of world's problems, let us remember them!

For if we don't, who else is going to?

'BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE' ! (MG)