Monday, January 16, 2023

GIVING WITHOUT ASKING, GIVING EXPECTING NOTHING IN RETURN!

GIVING WITHOUT ASKING, GIVING EXPECTING NOTHING IN RETURN! 



I was returning in a pensive mood from the cemetery with my grandson in the afternoon today - my father's birthday, ... in the hot afternoon, on a lonely stretch of road.


Over a distance, I saw a lady with 2 long pieces of sugar cane, casually handing them over to a poor woman by the roadside tending to her cows.

No one asking,..... giving not expecting anything in return! No photos, no wall posters, no clapping, and no social media posts!

All of a sudden Pongal day looked a more brighter, happier and wonderful day!


Louis Armstrong’s song came to my mind! .... ‘It is a wonderful, wonderful world!'

Saturday, January 14, 2023

TIMES ARE CHANGING, WHILE YOUTH REMAIN THE SAME & RECEPTIVE!

 TIMES R CHANGING WHILE YOUTH REMAIN THE SAME & RECEPTIVE!



My 6-year grandson a month ago was out shopping with the family for the festive season. All he wanted was a toy plastic camera, being sold by a roadside vendor which clicked and showed about 6 pictures costing Rs 80. Nothing else!

I remembered having an old Lumix camera with its own battery. Probably 20 or more years old. The recharging unit was missing and the modern mobiles have replaced the cameras at least for the common man like me.

I located the Lumix camera with some difficulty.  Ordered the correct recharging unit online. I received only a new (another) battery with no recharging unit🙄. So now I had 2 batteries now lying useless.

Not put back by this setback as the love of the grandchild above all! 

After locating a photography shop in Coimbatore I  placed an order for the recharger and got it 48 hours and at one-fourth of the price too😃!

Finally, everything worked, I surprised my grandson with it! He was thrilled. He, with my assistance, took ordinary snaps, close portraits,  wide angles, panoramic shots and even a video with it!

Then he tried sweeping the screen to see the images! Nada, this was from the non-touchscreen of the yester era. But he was satisfied with the back and forward keys to do the job of seeing the images.

After that,  casually he said, "How do you take a selfie?" The thought never even struck me till now. I told him to turn the handy camera backwards and take a shot .... which he did very well!

The philosophical point I wish to make is that 
-the newer generation of people innately have higher expectations in life and
- the more 50-year-old folks think through this and understand the youth in the changing digital world of today, the better!

By the way have no doubts about the joy my grandson has with this digital, but the old-fashioned camera... he loves it! I hope to show him the SD memory card in future and how to transfer images to the desktop  ... as a teaching tool. 

It is left to us as parents and grandparents to educate children at home on our old traditions as they grow in the fast-moving world.  One ideally should not expect the schools to do all the heavy lifting of teaching everything!

The youth will probably develop the background of the older generations and understand why they can be ancient in their sometimes conservative ways! 

Saturday, October 29, 2022

ON KINGS AND QUEENS …. And the such!

 ON KINGS AND QUEENS …. And the such!




News via the papers and social media has revealed some rumblings among the royal families after the head has been replaced with a new one.  


When one meets royalty, one needs to curtsey and bow down. This was not only demanded of protocol but also reverence to the royalty.


A king is a supreme leader who is a fair judge and rules his people by tradition.



So what are the qualities expected of a king?


Justice, fairness in life to all (including his children), compassion to all societies of life, a charitable heart, good manners, high education, love for his own family, responsibility and accountability to his men.



What are the qualities you don't want the king to have?


Arrogance, pompousness, incoherent erratic behaviour, addiction to women, wine and substances.


The English had great kings in the past!





In Norway, Sweden and Finland, rulers are now mainly queened.  Royalty remains popular as they retain the essence of all the qualities of a commoner. They reside in places away from the palace, leaving it for official meetings or tourists. They even travel by public transportation on occasion to meet the public. 




Can we copy this in democracy?





In a democracy, the elected leaders take the place of rulers by function. It would inculcate the ideal qualities and do away with the bad ones. Politicians in power, for that matter anyone in power such as religious heads, sports personnel who are popular, and movie stars who are icons can also imbibe such great qualities and more. 


What a beautiful world it would be for the youth to follow them and lead us quickly to more peace and prosperity!






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Thursday, October 13, 2022

WHY YOU MUST TRAVEL OUT FOR A HOLIDAY!



 WHY YOU MUST TRAVEL OUT FOR A HOLIDAY!


Recently my wife and I took an International trip for a holiday. This was after three years of staying masked at home due to covid.


We had lived in the UK before coming down to settle in Coimbatore 3 decades ago. As my younger son lives in the USA with his wife, we take a trip now and then to see them for about 2 weeks or so. Beyond that, we hardly ever go on a holiday.


It all started with an SMS to my wife from a group organising a trip to Scandinavia for about 12 days - Supreme tours. The organizer mentioned that it was only for doctors belonging to Indian Medical Association. We decided to take on the trip though we did not know personally anyone else who was going.



PREPARATION:


I did know where Scandinavia was. I looked up the map, drew it, and named the countries with capital cities. I even taught this to my 6-year-old grandson and he seemed to remember them better than I did. 





Then I read up on the itinerary of the trip. The 5 countries had numerous places of interest for tourists. It was worthwhile reading about them. But it was like a blind man feeling an elephant- knowing bits of stuff which one could not see.


I also decided that I must make this trip count by digital documentation. So ensured how to make videos with mobile and save them on the laptop to ensure decent video travelogues ( which was a new term for me).



THE TOUR:



Meeting 37 doctors ( a few non-medical members too) in Chennai airport was daunting. After landing, it was easy to make friends as everyone was friendly and helpful. Strangers formed intense bonding like a family and it was easy to function as a unit. 



A coach took us from one country to another for our hotels or city tours. There was a guide in each city/country who travelled with us on these trips. They were mostly teachers of history who were extremely knowledgeable.



We visited museums, places of worship, and markets, met local people, visited parks, ate local food and went on so many boat rides as every country was surrounded by seas everywhere.




WHAT WE LEARNT:


1. Behaviour of locals




Locals were always on time and polite. They were not very friendly overtly, though they could speak English well. The population was very low compared to the Indian population. 



There was hardly anyone on the streets when we travelled. We met people only in places of tourist interest or in restaurants. They waited patiently for their turn and did not push their way in for seats/ tables which are common here. Soft voices and no eye contact with strangers. 



Sure, they were like us in that there were demonstrations - like the one supporting Ukraine and another against Iran. Both times, people stood inside designated marked areas, kept flags and banners, raised slogans for a limited amount of duration and dispersed without any procession. The rest of the population watched on and carried on with their own affairs. Did you know that the happiest people on earth are found here as the government ensures everyone has a roof over their head and food on the table?!



2. Traffic


Traffic was an eye-opener to some of the first-timers. No horns at all. All vehicles moving in complete harmony. When you stopped on the road at the green signal in zebra crossings, vehicles stopped and allowed you to cross. 



There were tons and tons of bicycles and electronic standing scooters for adults /electric hoverboards - easily hired by the internet. Hardly any motorbikes or scooters as we have them here. Pollution due to traffic was minimum. Plenty of lanes for bicycles ( and electronic standing scooters only) on every road. 



The bike parade on Sunday was so orderly! Everyone followed traffic rules, and traffic lights and police were conspicuous by their absence.



3. Museums



Museums were based on ships, old lifestyles or history. Ships which had been to the north and south poles were preserved in entirety for everyone to walk through and have a hands-on experience. There was a movie in every museum first on the history of what it was about and the main events; there were guides available as well as free printed literature. 



Old lifestyle museums had live actors in the old recreated situations- like for instance boat making or women who were weaving or cross stitching. It was interesting that many actors were students on these subjects of boat making or early stitching habits. 



We were as curious about them as they were very precise as they were about where we came from! Even actors driving old wooden carts drawn by mules were passing by as we walked along these museums. 



4. Education


Education for the students was free. The same teacher taught the class ( small groups of 10 or 12) for about 6 years. There were no exams. They were taught the way of history or music or sports or anything they wanted. So it was like homeschooling which was totally free. The school allowed any age - adults too to learn. College education was free too. For subjects not available in the country, the government paid for free education abroad. Scandinavian countries have produced many Nobel prize winners, talented musicians and top leaders which bear witness to the success of the free and fair education system they possess. 



5. Palaces



Palaces were open to tourists both outside and inside to exhibit how they function even today. They are kept in prime condition and the well-informed guides ensure that the groups they take around are small and do justice to the history. Many of the monarchies behave in a simple fashion living away from the palaces ( which are open to the public) and even travelling among the common folks. Hence are quite popular.



6. Parks



Parks are another popular sites to visit. They are generally very large extending to sometimes hundreds of acres. Always filled with statues - not of politicians - but just figures of common folks, workers or sports people.  



Some statues like the ‘Little Mermaid’ have even stories of myth to make them attractive! 



Parks can be theme based like music (Sibelius) or sports ( Winter Olympics Skying) or just beautiful small parks with beautiful plants, green grass, flowers and chairs for all to sit around. 



Music abounds in these parks played by large uniformed bands ( brass bands) as solo singers with HiFi equipment or just a violinist with a hat around. 



These musicians sing/play for the love of it and not for making money out of it - though there is usually a box around for you to contribute if you wish. 



The weather, the greenery and the nature of people make everyone stop and enjoy the music.



7. Superstitions



There were many superstitions among the people. One such was the Haunted Garden of the King of Denmark where ghosts walked at night, with vague whispers, strange noises, articles moving by themselves, etc. 



There was also the Angel with a pointing finger. The finger of the angel was later discovered to be pointing towards a shipwreck many centuries ago when hundreds of sailors lost their lives. 




The ancestors were men of the sea; you had to believe in God and the Devil with all the superstitions in between! Then of course the Little Mermaid of the sea who was converted to a human by a witch as she fell in love with a prince drowned at sea. He, unfortunately, married a human princess and not the mermaid!



8. Places of worship:



Churches have been kept in prime condition though the Sunday attendance is paltry for visitors. 



There is always a souvenir shop closely by where one can buy things to remember the visit. There is even a big church cut out of a huge rock with natural lighting on the sides. 



Almost every church has a huge pipe organ which is expensive and is well equipped acoustically to ensure even a whisper from the stage is heard by the audience without a mic. 




Churches are open to concerts of classical or modern music due to their acoustic sound planning; so they are used for worship as well as the propagation of music.



9. Boat/ship cruises:



As the countries are surrounded by water on most sides,  almost every major city has a motorised boat cruise with its own PA system announcing places of interest. 



There is a major boat overnight cruise between Norway and Stockholm across the Baltic Sea which is a big sensation by itself and definitely a lifetime experience by itself. 



This is the place of James Bond movie scenes!




10. Roadside cafes and pubs: 


Food, food everywhere. 



There were plenty of pubs around, but surprisingly no drunks! 



Every type of food was available. Vegetarians were looked after too despite the abundance of seafood. Food was every nationality was bountiful! 



WHAT WE MISSED MOST 🧐


What really struck me was the absence of roadside tall statues, cut-outs, and wall posters of politicians, movie stars and cricket stars which we are used to in abundance. There was no littering or horns or traffic noises or animals either. No potholes on roads. 



WHAT THE TRIP HAS DONE FOR ME:


Despite visiting multiple nations in the past, I learnt many things. I had not been on a structured trip with such a large and intense literary like this. Such as this made me understand the local people, their habits, their government and their education systems. 


Relaxation is a byproduct of any vacation.


Travelling broadens one’s mind and outlook in life!




WILL I BE WILLING TO DO THIS SORT OF TRIP AGAIN?


Most certainly, yes. Maybe after a year or so. I feel it is best to travel with the spouse as it adds to the companionship and understanding.



THE END


  








Tuesday, October 11, 2022

LIFE COMES AROUND IN TIME

 LIFE COMES AROUND IN TIME

Time is the most important commodity in life.  Once spent, it is not coming back. It is irreversible.



TIME IS PRECIOUS:


So save it!


Spend it usefully with people you love! 

                           with good people who you need to work professionally!   

                           doing things you love or which matter to you in life!




TIME IS  NOT FOR:


Time is not to be wasted waiting for others who come habitually late!


Time is not to be wasted on people who dislike you, hate you or belittle you!


Time is not to be wasted on slogging out on someone else’s dreams!


Time is not to be spent on the activities of folks who promote themselves for their own selfish needs.



2 recent incidents reaffirmed my belief that life comes around with the time you spent!


1. A B&W photo was taken in 1965 of six people who attended All Souls’ Church including the priest and his wife. ( Only 6 attended the service including the clergy. Attendance was not good even those days ðŸĪŠ). The other was a young boy of about 6 or 7 years who was accompanying a couple with their 7-year-old daughter.


The young boy, now a retired well accomplished gentleman, with his own family traced with the aid of the photo …the family to Nagercoil and Coimbatore and was gracious enough to meet my mother in law who is 90 years (and she remembered him and his parents vividly). He with his wife also visited my wife and me as she was the little girl in the picture! and remembered even after a period of 57 years with no communication! 


2. Someone who recently consulted me for a surgical second opinion from Trichy casually mentioned the last time she saw me was as a young schoolboy in shorts playing the violin in the evening service in All Saints Church, Trichy on a Sunday evening!



Conclusion:


Good people will remember despite many decades, even small details despite the time spent with us.


We in a short time, may not realise who the good ones are; but in the long term, we do!


We spend our time in life with valuable people who matter to us (and vice versa), our family, neighbours, and friends; let us be good together so that our memories remain pleasant over decades to come!


Though that particular moment in time is gone, 'life comes around in time' alive with such memories!



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Friday, September 10, 2021

SARPATTA PARAMBARAI - TAMIL MOVIE (2021) REVIEW

 SARPATTA PARAMBARAI - TAMIL MOVIE (2021) REVIEW


I was told to watch this movie (Amazon Prime) as it was the story of a boxer!

The story is about a manual worker in Chennai port, who loves boxing. He spends all his bachelor life and time, sneaking behind his mom to watch fights! His ‘Daddy’ is a typical daddy who encourages his son in this direction... like a misguided missile! Daddy's English terms and slangs bring a smile instantly to the viewer!

So who among us does not have a hobby ? an intense desire to be something else, apart from our vocation! This makes Arya the hero identify instantly with the main movie going mass!

Then flash back to his teacher’s days - Pasupathy! Who looks strict... intense... does not have a smile except once in the last part of the movie! 

Story of this film is based on boxing jealousies in the 70s Chennai. 

I am from Trichy. Opposite to my house where my sister and I grew up  in Thillainagar Trichy, was a big maidhan - a huge playground in the seventies. On and off, a large arena used to be built with thatched barricading and housed with stadium of seats with bamboo poles!

Wrestling matches were popular those days. Queues of men used to line up to buy tickets and show up for theses  fights which were held in the evening. Vans used to carry banners with loud announcements ( like chocalol beedies 😊) about these fights!

These wresting matches were more common and popular than movies then. Kingkong and Tharasingh were big names among the fighters. These were wrestling - not boxing matches.

I remember these were orderly and not even once, police were called to sort of disorderly conduct! Though I was too young to watch these matches, we lived close enough to hear these announcements. I am sure the wrestlers respected each other and followed the rules of the referees.

Back to the movie, ... Arya wins one match and falls by the wayside. An jail term followed by a new habit of drinking marks a turn in his life before the climax.

What the movie is about is - tough training and the motivation from within. Most of us from the middle class families are aware of coming up in life with sacrifices / encouragement of parents and tough preparations for life.

Life is not always fair!

We know bad friendship can lead one astray.

Most important lesson in life is ... to get up in life after one has fallen; not to do this is a sin! 

This is what the movie depicts and I guess this is a motivating film for the youth and the middle class mass.



Thursday, July 29, 2021